Sex Magik. It Is A Thing.

Personally I have dabbled in witchcraft for awhile...mostly all by default ..but using new moon, full moon and forests for many prayers you could call spells.

It was not until I discovered Sex Magik that I was truly turned on ( literally ) by fully owning my witchy-ness and began celebrating the act of casting spells out into the universe.

Discovering Sex magik meant I could combine my love for orgasms and witchy poo magic all in one.

Hell Yes. !

And it may seem like a load of woo hoo and only for crazy people.

But believe me it is the real deal.

Anyways..even if you don't think it to be true..what is the harm of giving it a go ? Any excuse for more orgasms I say !

Sex Magik is a powerful tool to use inside of your relationship with a significant other if you are wanting to draw in big things like a new home, a holiday, having a baby or changing jobs/careers.

And Sex magik is a damn powerful tool to use  S O L O !

I am all for mind-full masturbation and using your masturbation/self pleasure time mindfully towards your desires is a very powerful thing.

A few months ago I used sex magik in Mexico City in the airport.

Faced with red tape over the amount of hours my lay over was between Costa Rica and Canada I was being told that I had to repay for all of my luggage on my flights in order to board the second half of my flight.

I had spent over two hours negotiating with quite a few people behind desks and on phones and felt I had exhausted all avenues.

Travelling for 2 days already I was running on no sleep and had forgotten about this little piece of magic.

Touching my string of necklaces I made contact with my small rose quartz egg that is the perfect size for clitoris play.

“Of Course” I thought. There is always one more thing I can try,

Leaving my son falling in and out of sleep on top of our luggage I went off to the bathroom and got busy.

Very clear with my need to check in onto our 2^nd leg of the journey with all our pre paid luggage at no extra cost I was also wanting to be able to check in 5 hours early so we could just get through the gates and sleep before boarding our flight.

After spending time breathing, stimulating my clitoris and praying I returned to the customer desk where my son was now fast asleep spread eagled over one of his suitcases.

I was greeted by a man I had not seen before wearing a diamante snake broach on his lapel.

“Miss Boord” He said

“I am so sorry for all of your hassles with us over the past few hours. I will personally check all your luggage onto the flight and am happy to do that for you now even though the check in counters for your flight don''t open for a few more hours. Please accept my apologies for the mix up that you have endured'

T R U E     S T O R Y.

I have even used sex magic to have green lights all the way down Lonsdale Avenue in North Vancouver one day when I was extremely late for an appointment .

 I used Sex Magik years ago to get myself to Havana, start a business that allowed me to keep going there and gain a family in a city that I now call my second home.

Most recently this past week I have used Sex Magik both for myself and my Lover. Creating for both of us a few daily things that had to come to fruition. I needed to sell my sons bike that day and the text I received from my lover this morning confirmed a few things I had been self pleasuring over whilst we have been a apart.

There is no denying the power of Sex Magik.

So for the big things and the little things..Sex magik is a
F U N way to manifest what you want.

Here are 4 things about Sex magik you should know.

1. Sex magic is using your sexual energy to cast a spell.

Sex Magik uses your sexual energy (often an orgasm) to cast a spell. Casting a spell is just setting an intention and then performing a ritual to bring the intention to the universe’s attention. You can cast a spell with candles, jars, crystals and other trinkets AND also the most fun of all , O R G A S M S!

2. Orgasms are powerful tools to harness energy.

Everything has energy, and anyone who has experienced energetic, emotional and/or spiritual orgasms knows that they are powerful forms of energy. Aside from feeling good and being a hot way to connect with your partner or more deeply with yourself, some witches believe that the sexual energy within an orgasm can be used as a ritual to cast a spell.

3. To cast a spell, just visualize what you want as you Orgasm.

Words like magic, rituals, and spells can seem complicated, but performing sex magic is easy peasy. Literally just visualize what you want while you bring yourself to orgasm. Want to attract a new partner that fits a certain description? Think about them. Want more money? Think about cash while you orgasm— work less and orgasm more !

4. Masturbation may be the best time to practice sex magic.

You want to give your spell your full concentration.

With a solo practice write your intention down, create a space for mindful masturbation / self pleasure and state it out loud to God Energy / The Universe, as you orgasm. Keep that intention on your altar or under your pillow until it comes to fruition.

If you are using sex magik whilst making love with another then both of you need to be on the same page. Unless you don't tell them and you silently say your intention to yourself as you orgasm.

But really...that is not as fun as it could be.

If you are on the same page, then creating a little ceremony together can be as simple as both agreeing what it is you are wanting manifest and then whilst love making, fucking and being all juicy together keep on thinking about your desire and bring yourselves to orgasm together at the same time and both say it ( well groan, yell, scream and sigh it ) out loud to the universe together.

Sex magik.

You, Your Orgasm, and your Intentions.

Go forth and create baby !!


With Love & Pleasure
Melissa
xx

Male Genital Mutilation (MGM)

When it comes to the human body if we didn't need it,
we wouldn't have it.

If you believe in the grand creator or not I doubt you would find many arguing that our bodies are perfect as they are. We come into this world with everything we need.

I am a mother.

And like all mothers we will tell you the birth of our children are up there with the most monumental events of our lives. Profound, un equalled in importance and in the depths in the wells of love.

Here in the western world Mothers of daughters do not come face to face with the consideration of genital mutilation and in fact it is illegal.
But in countries where it is practiced several health and human-rights organisations, such as the World Health Organisation (WHO) and UNICEF, are acting to increase awareness of this problem, decrease cultural acceptance and encourage practitioners to abandon the practice.

So..

The question has to be asked...

Why do so many mothers hand over their baby boys for genital mutilation, commonly known as circumcision. ?

 Firstly lets look at how we speak about it.
 
Language.

Language of the debate is skewed toward the pro-circumcision side. Using the term "uncircumcised" heavily leads to the belief that this is the “unnatural” state, or the exception to t­he rule. We do not often hear the words "natural," "full length" or "intact" referring to an uncircumcised penis. A boys penis is generally either circumcised or un-circumcised. This wording needs to be changed to in tact, natural, full length.





Secondly let's look at basic biology

The Foreskin.
 
The foreskin has up to 20 000 nerve endings in it. When sliced off this leaves exposed the head of the penis that has only around 4 000 nerve endings. A penis left in tact and in its natural state has more sensitivity than a woman's clitoris. A penis subjected to mutilation has had its sensitivity lowered by 80 %.
Fact is when a boys penis is circumcised, it loses its protective encasing and becomes desensitized over the years from its natural state. It basically obtains a certain state of numbness.

So what history lies behind MGM (male genital mutilation)?

Business, ownership and wealth with the promise of elitism.

“According to the Book of Genesis in the Torah, G­od made a covenant with Abraham (a Jewish patriarch) in which Abraham and his descendants would be given great lands, riches and success, but with one catch: Abraham, his descendants and any slaves purchased or born in his household must be circumcised by the eighth day of life. Not doing so would mean that the uncircumcised male would be separate from his people and live without the favour of God. The Jews have held up their end of the deal. Rates of circumcision remain high in Jewish men: about 98 percent of American Jews are circumcised.”

The prophet Muhammad was circumcised due to traditions passed down from Abraham's son to a slave woman ( Ishmael ) whom is considered the forefather of the modern-day Arab people. Although when Muhammad's teachings were collected into the Quran there was no directive regarding circumcision you will find most Muslims circumcise their sons just because Muhammad himself was.

Today, almost two out of every three circumcised men on the planet are Muslim.

Mainly viewed as an Islamic practice religions such as Buddhism or Hinduism don't have a stance on circumcision and most Christian sects don't endorse circumcision, leaving the choice up to the family.

In fact the Catholic church has a strong moral statement on amputations, mutilations, and sterilisations. Circumcision falls under both amputation and mutilation, so it is clearly covered by this policy. Catholics generally are required to respect bodily integrity.Lack of respect for bodily integrity is viewed as a violation of the Fifth Commandment, Thou shalt not kill.

Circumcision of children for “non-medical reasons” is banned in Denmark and Sweden yet boys may consent to the procedures from the age of 12.

Stating that circumcision violates the child's right to bodily integrity, a German court ruled on June 28^th 2012 it illegal for baby boys to be circumcised for religious reasons.

In Australia "Cosmetic" circumcision is banned in public hospitals in Australia, although permitted in private ones. Figures from Medicare show that circumcision incidence in Australia continues to decline and is now at the lowest rate since records were kept. Between Financial Year 2009/10 and 2015/16 the number of circumcisions of boys under 6 months of age fell from 20,246 to 14,880 – a decline of about 30%.

In 2013 the Council of Europe adopted a resolution questioning the practice of circumcising young boys and several EU member states are debating bans on religious circumcision

Whilst the Council on Scientific Affairs of the American Medical Association now defines neonatal circumcision as a "non-therapeutic" surgical procedure.

Many Western jurisdictions have only recently banned the genital mutilation of girls as there was previously no history of the procedure occurring there. Increased immigration from Africa and the Middle East has forced governments to clarify existing legislation or introduce new laws explicitly banning FGM, and it is now restricted across the EU, in Australia, New Zealand, Canada and the United States:

As stated in the Catechism of the Catholic Church at paragraph 2297 states in part:

"Except when performed for strictly therapeutic medical reasons, directly intended amputations, mutilations, and sterilizations performed on innocent persons are against the moral law.

Christians have, with very few exceptions, never practiced circumcision.

 

Nevertheless, secular thought introduced the practice in the modern United States, and American Christians absorbed it. Christians in other lands are often shocked to hear that some American Christians routinely circumcise their boys. They view the practice as a lack of respect for God's wise creation and a clear violation of basic medical ethics.

This leads me to ask why in my 27 years of being sexually active have I consistently found many men of christian back grounds circumcised ?

Recently when speaking with my lover here in Costa Rica he told me with pride how his mother made the decision for himself and his brother not to be circumcised as it would hinder their sensitivity during sex. I just want to hug that woman !

He also told me that he was the one that looked different amoungst his school friends growing up with most of the boys around him having had their foreskins removed as babies.

SO, Why, indeed ?

And I have heard it over and over again.

“The real reason I wanted to do it was so our son wouldn't look different in the locker room when he got older”
Most American and parents choose newborn circumcision in spite of medical advice; in fact, for many it's a no-brainer. "My husband and I probably spent only 10 minutes discussing it," says one mother of Concord, Massachusetts, of their son's circumcision last year. "We didn't want our boy to look different from his dad."
 

 

Let's just pause for a moment......

 

Isn't this the problem we are now having in female populations of the west where girls and women are wanting to look like porn stars and having their inner and outer labia's cosmetically altered?  “So they look the same as someone else”
I mean come on guys. Would you do it to your daughter? So she had a good chance of looking like the pixelated images in porn movies?

I would go out on a limb and say NO you would not.
 Another woman, of Brooklyn, New York, when delivered her boy recently and had him circumcised,  She states. "I went to high school in Marin County, California, in the early '90s. My friend's boyfriend was uncircumcised, and it was a topic of conversation among the girls," she recalls. "But if I lived in a place where 80 percent of the boys were not circumcised, then I probably wouldn't do it.”
From about 1980 to 1999, 65 percent of infants born in the United States were circumcised; in 2005, that percentage had dropped to 56, where it has generally held steady since. Rates of circumcision vary across the regions of the United States: Three out of four Midwestern babies are circumcised, while only slightly more than half of all Southern babies are cut [source: Merrill]. Only about 21 percent of infants are circumcised in the West.

Hispanics are less likely than non-Hispanics to circumcise male children. The greater concentration of Hispanics in the West over the last 30 years is believed to be responsible for the regional decline in circumcision.

As with various patent medicines and medical beliefs of the past, circumcision was seen by some as a cure for a range of ailments, from impotence to homosexuality.
The health benefits of circumcision are overstated. Circumcision may drastically cut down on HIV and other STD infection rates, but so do safe sex practices.
Also in the past the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) said that circumcising newborn boys did have potential medical advantages, primarily related to preventing urinary tract infections (UTIs). But by 1999, the AAP had formed a task force on circumcision that decided the procedure shouldn't be routinely recommended. The task force based this policy on 40 years of studies of both circumcised and uncircumcised boys, and it concluded the following:

• Problems with the penis, such as irritation, can occur with or without circumcision.
• With proper care, there is no difference in hygiene.
• There may or may not be differences in sexual sensation in adult men.
• There is an increased risk for a UTI in uncircumcised males, especially babies under 1 year. However, the risk for a UTI is still less than 1 percent.
• Newborn circumcision provides some protection from penile cancer, which only occurs in the foreskin. However, the risk of this cancer is very low in developed countries such as the United States.
  

"We also looked at whether being circumcised prevents HIV in a man's partner," says Jack Swanson, MD, a pediatrician in Ames, Iowa, and a task force member. "There may be a slight benefit to being circumcised, but the statistics were inconclusive. There weren't any medical reasons that were convincing enough for us to say that all boy babies should be circumcised," he says.

 

At the end of the day no major medical organization recommends circumcision. As the chief Dutch medical organization KNMG has concluded doctors should "actively and insistently inform parents who are considering the procedure of the absence of medical benefits and the danger of complications."

With all of this talk about cutting it off, it's time I shared with you what it s all about.

Uncircumcised men have stronger sexual sensations because the tip of the penis is not constantly exposed to the everyday elements; The ability of the uncircumcised penis to slide within its own sleeve provides for "nonabrasive" sexual intercourse and masturbation.
.Men lose a degree of sexual pleasure and stimulation when he foreskin is removed. Many unique nerve endings -- found only in the foreskin -- are lost forever. As mentioned above,
20 000 in fact.
The foreskin, also known as the prepuce is a complex structure with multiple anatomical and physiological functions. It is specialised tissue, composing of skin, mucosa, nerves, blood vessels, and muscle fibres.
A frenulum is found on the ventral side of the penis. The frenulum serves to tether a movable structure to a non-movable structure. The penile frenulum returns the foreskin to its normal protective forward position. Most men report that the frenulum is highly erogenous tissue.
The prepuce covers and protects the glans penis and urinary meatus. In most males, the prepuce protects the sterile urinary tract environment in infancy and maintains the moistness — beneficial to good health — of the mucosal surface of the glans penis throughout life.
Several writers have commented on the sensitivity of the prepuce. Winkelmann (1956) wrote, “…it is a region of great sensitivity and possessed of an abundant nerve supply, and later (1959) identified the prepuce as a specific erogenous zone. Falliers (1970) noted the “sensory pleasure associated with tactile stimulation of the foreskin.”
A landmark study by Sorrells et al. (2007) of the fine-touch sensitivity of the penis finds that the areas most sensitive to fine touch are on the foreskin.
The presence of the prepuce tends to protect the corona of the glans penis from direct stimulation, helps to prevent premature ejaculation and contributes to female satisfaction.

Circumcision, therefore, amputates the most sensitive areas of the penis.

^{And from a woman's point of view that is a damn shame.}

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My Moon Time  Ritual.

Sacred Ceremony.

 

 

I have always dreamt of the Red Tent.

As a young girl I yearned for it but was also intimidated by it.

Inside of me I could feel the reverence for bleeding each month. I felt its power, it's sacredness and gift, but all around me was an under lying current of hatred and shame around women bleeding every month.

Names such as “Rags” and “Thingy” and lines used such as “it's that time of the month” with eyes rolling upwards and sighs to be heard each time man or woman spoke of Menstruation.

My monthly bleed was presented to me by my culture as something that was to be hidden, that others had to put up with and it was smelly and dirty and a complete annoyance.

I had no ceremony held for me, no women's circle to hold me nor an avenue to find out about the sacredness of it all.

Thirty years on I have now made a commitment to myself that each time I bleed I will enter my own red tent.

Inspired by a girlfriend of mine whom has actually just spent a whole month, from one bleed to the next in private ceremony, I committed to myself to be at home and do only what I wanted to do and rest the whole time I was bleeding.

Much preferring the term “moon time” I cocooned myself into my own world where I meditated and listened to my body the whole two days I bled.

Being home in stillness during this time also meant I could indulge in many rituals that have been simmering in my being for a long time now, waiting for this moment to arrive !!

I fully embodied my wild witch-y-ness and set out to re-Wild my WomBan.

I drank my first flow of blood. I ceremoniously give thanks to her as I felt her power re enter my body.

I have to admit I felt like I should have howled up to the sky and beat my chest. But I did not.

After drinking this first flow, I sat in meditation just to be. No agenda, no needing to find answers, just to sit .

I heard that familiar sound of the hummingbird wings.

She was inside of my room.

She came in just as I sat and breathed.

Oh how I welcomed her in.

It is said that Hummingbird brings love as no other medicine can.

It is said that if you take notice of her medicine you will experience a renewal of the magic of living.

Hummingbird is loved by the flowers and plants, for as it sucks the nectar from the flower, the plant reproduces and more of its kind are created.

Hummingbird lives on nectar and searches for the sweetness of life. It's purpose is to pollinate the flowers of the world.

I took her message with the nectar of my blood.

My innate knowing of my nectar that comes with in me.

I spent the next two days ONLY peeing, bleeding and releasing all bodily nations back into mother earth.

I would go into the jungle and squat and release anything that needed to flow, returning to the land I walked on.

In essence I placed a ring of fire around my house.

This in itself is STRONG witch-y-poo magik.

Placing intentions and protection around my house where I reside

Claiming my space of living.

Months ago I started to place my blood beneath the Mango tree by our house that had not bore fruit in years. This season it is FULL of ripening fruits !!!

As my bleed was coming to an end, I would wipe the trickles of the blood off of my inner thighs and then lick my fingers. Oh how my WILD WomBan was in full force.

Then came down the pouring rains on that last night. The quissential tropical downpour that makes everyone and everything stop in its tracks.

I Stood out in the heavy downpour watching the lightning light up the sky in its pinks yellows and hues of blue.

I stood with my legs spread and allowed any last drops of my blood offering to be washed into the land I stood on.

Tow days on from this self appointed ceremony I see so much of what we do as women that does not serve us and therfore does not serve those around us nor the planet at large.

Having taken the time to rest, go inward and honour myself in my FULL womBaness I am not so overwhelmed entering back into the masculine part of my life of work and getting BUZIness done.

I feel grounded and strong. Not behind nor stressed.

I am also experiencing more flow in my life and feel more open to the miracles that are happening.

As I gave to my most sacred time, I am more open to the receiving of my universal gifts.

During this time I also gave my commitment to ease. This meant my son ate pancakes for 2 days because I just said yes. We laughed more than we have in a long time and enjoyed each others company. I relinquished motherly control, so pancakes it was.

And as I listened to my body by resting and staying inward, my body did not crave anything in order to cover any unrespected needs. No cravings for sweetness nor food actually. On my first day I only drank teas. Nuturing spice filled teas with ingredients I picked from the jungle as I wandered around naked amoungst the green offering my blood back to plant that I took from.

Oh WomBan ReWIld.

I am so happy to feel you again. To know you . To meet you. To embody you.

I am so happy to have spent two days in a complete dream like state.

My innate state of the dreamy feminine.

Manifesting and dreaming up what we want in our family and what I want to bring into my life.

The feminine power is buried with in all of us..”the one who knows” as Dr. Clairssa Pinkola Estes calls her...... our deepest sources of creativity and understanding lie out of sight in darkness, in the unconscious. We must learn how to perceive “ through the eyes of the ego”.

The dual way of seeing, being and acting.

We must learn to see in the dark to mine the raw gems of mystery, dreams, sudden knowings, and the shadows of power as individuals in society.

When we honour our moon time and become more still and silent. We access the depths that lay within ourselves that hold the keys to our innate nature of wisdom.

A woman's Power is within her own self, not with in what she can prove in a masculine driven world.

The woman's world is her own.

Her intuition, her creation, her Magik.