Self Worth & Orgasms

In a world where free speech to this day is constantly debated and still fought for, the subject of a woman's choice to have plastic surgery is a heated one.

Especially when the plastic surgery is performed for appearances only.
There is no denial that in incredibly extreme cases of cleft plate deformity, car accidents, 3 degree burn incidents and so on that plastic surgery is a life saving procedure for the well being of the victim.
Their is also no denial that still today girls, and boys, are being raised and spoon fed a very narrow, mostly unachievable concept of outward appearances of beauty.

And it does not stop in the formative years. With more and more access to the digital world where even 2 yr olds have their own “smart” phones each and every one of us are constantly bombarded daily, in fact hourly and by the minute photo shopped ideals of how one should appear to “make it” in this world.

The ultimate freedom of working for yourself, anywhere, anytime basically involves one to be able to take stunning photos of oneself in sexy half naked shots proving you have bought into the agenda that good healthy food is a status for the elite and you get to do it on a beach in paradise.

These productions of proof gain you thousands and thousands of likes, lifting your status to someone that others would like to be and now you are an influencer.

In an era that is supposedly on the other side of feminism, where we are meant to be reaping the rewards for what our for mothers fought for, we are still receiving less pay than men, we have higher rates of single mothers raising children on their own than ever before, are constantly bombarded with the pink tax, the beauty product industry is the highest most profitable industry to date, women's “health Issues” are on an all time high and with each decade an even skinnier version of the perfect female body to strive for to gain all the success we could possibly dream of.
Plastic surgeries have risen to.....in the last 5 years with female mutilation high on the list.
Whilst human rights bodies all over the world are campaigning for women's rights in certain countries of Africa to not have their outer labia's cut for religious reasons, in the affluent Western countries such as the USA, Canada and Australia we have women flocking to have theirs re shaped as the porn industry reaps it's havoc on our warped perception of normalcy.



Now a days the perfect female body will get you affiliates on your instagram and youtube accounts, companies will send you loads of free gifts that you can now surely afford so that your perfect self can show the world they are apart of your perfection and freedom, it will gain you the perfect relationship with the perfect looking other and if you decide not to be in a relationship then that is how you keep your perfect life.

The need to look the part causes us to turn a blind eye to the killing of other living beings so our products can be deemed safe enough for our consumption.
Perceived success in an image of beauty that is not real causes death to others.
The death of the true human spirit, the death of animals that are used for product testing and the death of other humans in lower socio economic groups that receive money for the testing of products and drugs including those used to reach the unachievable goal of societies perceived beauty.
The constant inner dissatisfaction reeks havoc in relationships creating an elephant n the room that stands in the way of true intimacy.
New research by McCrindle and laser machine brand Cynosure shows most women want to change something about their bodies and believe their lives would be better with a more "sculpted" body.
According to the research, 93 per cent of Australian women believe their body shape could be improved and 59 per cent of women are unhappy with their body shape.
Almost a third said they would feel more confident in their love lives and would enjoy going to the beach more. 37 per cent would "feel more confident when I go out with friends" and 43 per cent would be "more OK with who I am".
Almost one in four Aussie women have tried microdermabrasion, diet pills, chemical peel, cellulite cream, liposuction, a breast augmentation or a facelift.

I feel I have been rebelling against this machine since I was a child.
It has made me angry, resentful to be living in our society and mad that it still exists. I was somehow under the illusion that by the time I reached my own adulthood years we would all be over this.



But now in a time where being a “Goddess” is each and every woman's right if not a “necessity” to show how happy and successful she is, it feels like we have only become more and more obsessed of how we look like as a Goddess than truly embodying who we truly are as individuals.



I don't have the answers to it all, just as I never did back when I was hitchhiking my way around Mexico, Bolivia, Paraguay, Argentina and Brasil proving to the world as a woman I could do anything. That as a woman I could be anywhere, do what I want and succeed making my mark as a wild woman.
I even rode an Enfield motorbike through Rhajhastan along the Pakistani border to push my own limit of fear as a woman in a country that showed I was human fodder to be poked grabbed and pulled at.

But I do know one answer to many of these ailments of lack of self worth, female competition, body issues, relationship issues, menstrual cramps, migraines, despondency, lack lustre skin, stress and the feeling of always missing out by not being in a relationship ...O R G A S M.



I was with a friend a few weeks ago as she was purchasing a hoped solution to her menstrual cramps. I suggested she have an orgasm at least every 4 hours during her bleed. Soon after I received a message from her telling me that she experienced her first pain free menstruation in years.
Before a Migraine hits full force, an orgasm will release the blood constriction occurring around the brain. But not once it has settled in as a migraine. So there is no stalling on this one. Just Do It.
Orgasms raise our oxytocin levels which means they make us happier.
The more orgasms women have the less competitive they are towards each other, basically because they are happier.
Orgasms create cell renewal giving our skin that gorgeous glow and youthful look that way too many women try to create spending hours in the bathroom with expensive products trying to achieve.

Orgasms release stress and make us feel happier with ourselves meaning we spend less time emotionally shopping A N D less time emotionally eating.
With less crap food going into our bodies we end up feeling better about ourselves.
When we are feeling better about ourselves we are more present in our relationships.



The list goes on. And if you still feel unconvinced than just ask yourself do you really think we were given orgasms in our bodies by the creator just so we could procreate and have other humans produced? That is a hell of a lot of menstruations per life time and a hell of a lot of time spent N O T having orgasms if this was so.
Want another reason to have an orgasm a day?
They balance your hormones.

Always with Love

& an ocean of Pleasure.

Melissa Louise.